Here's what many of us don't realize though. Many of us don't realize how much control over this negative mindset we really have. Many of us are completely ignorant of this fact, and so we live our days unintentionally contaminating everything good in our lives. We continuously exercise this disemboweling mindset again and again until it becomes nearly impossible to overcome.
And though we may not realize it, but here are the four most common ways we tend to exercise this negative mindset and make it much more difficult to overcome.
1. We Complain...All The Time
"I hate my job." "I can't believe this person did this to me." "I'm dying of starvation." "How come this person gets to have all this?" "Why can't anything ever go right in my life?"
Repetition of words is the ultimate way to train your subconsciousness. Whatever your mind hears the most is what it'll eventually believe. So when we are constantly cursing our lives and cursing everything that we own, we are really only cursing ourselves.
You know that saying that says what goes around comes around? Well, that saying certainly applies here. Whatever you give to the world, the world will give back to you. So if we're constantly cursing the world and whining about everything wrong with it, then the world will come back and reap what we sowed.
So for your own good, be grateful for what you have. It's not just about being "strong and optimistic in an ugly world", it's about being happy. Perspective is a choice. Complaining is an option, and so is being grateful. If we want to be happy, then we need to choose to be thankful for what we have, instead of whining about everything we don't have.
2. We Make Excuses Instead Of Solutions
"I can't do this because this would happen, or I would do this I'm not able to."
Many of us aren't aware, but there are always two ways to look at every situation. When faced with a problem, we can either use our minds to think up every excuse to explain why we can't solve it, or we can use our minds to think up solutions. Which do you find yourself doing more?
Again, perspective is a choice. We can look at every situation however we want to. We can either think of a way to fix it, or we can cry about it all day and make excuses why it's "unsolvable".
Now, while it is true that some situations really are out of our control, it is still healthy for our mindsets to think up ways to heal from it, instead of declaring the situation hopeless.
3. We Hold Grudges
"I will never forgive what this person did to me."
I'm sure this one's a given. In order to hold a grudge, we have to reserve negative feelings, instead of letting them go. Grudges hold attachments to things; they keep us still and make us unable to move forward. The longer we store these negative feelings, the harder it will be for us to let them go.
You may feel at the time that the person doesn't deserve forgiveness, but it's for your own good that you move on. Holding a grudge hurts you more than it does the person, and not only does it hurt you but it hurts everyone around you because of the reserved hate you have lingering deep within your heart.
4. We Dwell In Our Doubts
This is the most dangerous one of them all because it is the hardest to control. These are the poisoning thoughts that lurk into your head every now and then. We all receive doubts from time to time. We can't control that, but what we can control is how we react to them when we arrive.
So how do you react to them? Do you come to agreement with them or do you fight against them?
Here's an example:
"I'm never going to succeed in life."
How would you react to this? Would you let this thought consume you? Would you let this thought get you to complain? Would you allow this thought to start making you come up with excuses for not taking further actions or will you counter this thought with positive words and declarations?
The most effective way to counter against negative mindsets is when we speak positive words out loud. Many of us try to counter negative thoughts by simply denying them, but you can't defeat the enemy if all you're doing is blocking with your shield; you have to fight back with your sword, and positive repetition is just the way to do that!
Instead of countering your negative thoughts by denying its lie, counter it by speaking the opposite of what it declares. "I am very strong" is a much better defense than "I am not weak".
Declare what you want your body to feel. Teach your mind how you want it to think. Whatever influence you are most surrounded in is what your mind will base it's thoughts on. If you're surrounded in a negative environment, then create the environment you want to be surrounded in.
Repetition is very powerful. Whatever your body hears most often is what it's going to eventually believe. Make sure those words are words that will strengthen you, not harm you!
Negativity is an ugly thing. It creeps up on us any way it can and will easily consume us if we allow it to. No matter how strong we become, we will all face our share of doubts and fears.
It's impossible to prevent their arrival, but it's very much possible to overcome them when they do arrive. I purposely use the word "overcome" because it's so much more powerful than "defend".
Defense is holding out against an enemy too powerful for us to be on the offensive. Overcoming is not only defending against the enemy and fighting back, but it's declaring premature victory over it.
And that's exactly what we want. We want our minds to believe that we are more powerful than the lies our doubts tend to place in our minds.
We are strong! We are powerful! We are invincible! Nothing can stop us!
As long as we teach our minds to think like that, our positive declarations will not only be words of inspiration, but they will become words of reality!